So long, Detroit

I quit the trial. There were several reasons for this. My last CT scan was considered “stable”, but in truth there has been some progression. A small amount, but progression all the same. The most significant being spread to the pleural lining of the left lung. It isn’t causing any issues right now, but at some point it may mean I’ll start having trouble breathing. I also have small bowel obstructions which weren’t there before.

Mainly, I decided to drop out of the trial because it wasn’t doing enough to justify the side effects I was suffering. The drugs were making me just as sick, if not sicker, than the cancer. I gave it a try but this wasn’t going to be my miracle cure.

I made the decision at the right time. The small bowel obstructions that appeared on my last CT are causing a lot of issues for me. Eating is almost impossible, and what I am able to eat, I throw up 75% of the time. The reality of this illness is not pretty. I’ve lost more than 20 pounds in the last month. I’m on a cocktail of anti-emetics to try to prevent the nausea and vomiting. I’m pretty weak from dehydration and malnutrition, and ended up taking a ride to the hospital in an ambulance last week after nearly passing out in the grocery store. That experience has left me afraid to go out anywhere, no matter how close to home, on my own.

People inevitably will ask what they can do to help. Come visit me and take me out for short walks to help me build up my strength and keep me from getting too lonely. That’s probably the best thing anyone can do right now.

I have an appointment with the palliative care team next week. Hopefully they will have more ideas about how to get my symptoms under control and manage the nausea and weight loss. At this point, I’m not healthy enough to pursue any clinical trials in town (let alone out of town) and I’m not planning on trying chemo again, at least not while I’m as unwell as I am now. It’s possible that this is the end of the line as far as treatment is concerned for me. I’m still trying to wrap my head around that one.

Thanks to everyone for all your support, both in the past and going forward. I’ll be needing a lot of it.

About Alicia Louise

I'm a writer, editor, fact checker, storyteller, events organizer, chronically busy yet endlessly lazy, mildly neurotic (though I keep the neuroses well-hidden, one hopes) 32-year-old with recurrent ovarian cancer. I like people and good writing and straight talk. I have a hard time feeling sorry for people, including myself, but the people that I love, I love passionately; one may even say creepily. I try to keep that mostly to myself. I'd like to be charming, but I'm usually just a mess. I'm like a gull slamming into your windshield.
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12 Responses to So long, Detroit

  1. Think of you. Lots and lots of love

  2. Heather says:

    Alicia, I wish I knew what to write here, to you, to help. I want to say something supportive, and meaningful, but I’m not sure what that is. I don’t know you well, but I feel I know you better now through your writing, through you sharing your ideas and thoughts and feelings and what’s going on with the cancer. Your writing has meant something to me. I appreciate your honest words, and I think that it’s important that you’re writing your story.

  3. marillawex says:

    Sending you lots of love. I can certainly come and hang out with you. Will message you on the Facebook. X

  4. It sounds like the right decision. I’m really grateful to you for sharing this, and I hope you start feeling stronger soon.

  5. Thanks for the update pumpkin. Let me know if we can run errands/pick you up anything/love ya and squeeze ya.

  6. Amy Aubin says:

    Thinking of you lady!

  7. nataliezayne says:

    Alicia, thinking of you and sending thoughts of lightness and power. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I’m sorry you’re sick, really sorry.

  8. Reg Reader says:

    Sending love from the southern US. I wish we were neighbors so I could get you out of your home now & then for short walks or drives, or run errands for you.

  9. AussieAndrea says:

    Shit. Sorry to hear it. I hope for you.

  10. jen storey says:

    Alicia, this is such sad news. I hope you will feel better now that you off the meds. I admire your courage. Take care and I hope you are surrounded by all your favourites. Sending good vibes your way. xo

  11. Kate says:

    Hi Alicia – just a note from a stranger sending some love.

  12. Steph says:

    Sorry to hear that things have been rough, and hope the palliative care team can help and make you feel at least a bit (or hopefully a lot) better. Thinking of you and sending good wishes.

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